In previous generations, therapy was often seen as a last resort. It was something you did only when a relationship was on the brink of collapse or when someone was in severe crisis. The cultural narrative has shifted dramatically.
Even if you promised yourself you would never repeat the patterns you witnessed growing up, you still might find yourself noticing familiar dynamics playing out in your relationship. This is not a failure of character or willpower; your home environment during childhood was your first classroom for love and connection.
When you hear about Emotionally Focused Therapy, you might assume it focuses on teaching communication skills or helping couples argue more fairly. While those elements matter, EFT goes much deeper.
When couples walk through my office door, they rarely say they have fallen out of love. What they do say is that they feel stuck. They describe the same argument happening again and again, just with different details.
Everyone has moments where emotions linger longer than expected. An old hurt resurfaces out of nowhere, a conversation keeps replaying in your mind, or a feeling you cannot quite name refuses to fade.
If you live with ADHD, you probably know the obvious symptoms, like distractibility, impulsivity, emotional intensity, or trouble staying organized. What many people do not realize is how often ADHD and trauma responses overlap.
When you're in the middle of depression, it can feel like your brain is working against you. Motivation disappears, thoughts become foggy or hopeless, and even the simplest tasks can feel impossible. You might wonder if you'll ever feel like yourself again.
When something makes you anxious, your first instinct is often to avoid it. You cancel a meeting, delay a phone call, or convince yourself that now isn't the right time.
When you're living with depression, even the simplest everyday things like getting out of bed or answering a text can feel overwhelming. Exercise might sound like the last thing you want to do.
If you've already started trauma therapy and find yourself feeling more emotional, exhausted, or even more anxious than before, you're definitely not alone.