Even if you promised yourself you would never repeat the patterns you witnessed growing up, you still might find yourself noticing familiar dynamics playing out in your relationship. This is not a failure of character or willpower; your home environment during childhood was your first classroom for love and connection.

When you hear about Emotionally Focused Therapy, you might assume it focuses on teaching communication skills or helping couples argue more fairly. While those elements matter, EFT goes much deeper.

When couples walk through my office door, they rarely say they have fallen out of love. What they do say is that they feel stuck. They describe the same argument happening again and again, just with different details.

Everyone has moments where emotions linger longer than expected. An old hurt resurfaces out of nowhere, a conversation keeps replaying in your mind, or a feeling you cannot quite name refuses to fade.

Every child deserves a healthy attachment with their parents or caregivers. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. Far too many children have to deal with unmet needs.

Have you ever told someone — or even yourself — that you’ve moved on from an issue, but you know that deep down you’re still holding onto it? Maybe your feelings were hurt by a partner, or maybe you felt insignificant at work and tried to brush it off, but couldn’t. 

Emotions impact nearly everything we do as humans. They are survival tools. They are relationship builders. Emotions influence what we say and do and how we interact with others. Most importantly, they always demand to be felt.

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is a short-term therapy option that is known to improve the bonds and attachments in romantic partnerships. It’s especially effective for couples who are dealing with conflict or communication issues. 

The experiences we go through as a child often have a greater impact on our adult lives than we realize. When it comes to your relationships, harmful attachment issues in childhood can have a negative effect on your connections as an adult.

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is designed to help you improve attachment and break negative patterns in a relationship. People can enjoy the benefits of EFT on their own, in a romantic relationship, or even as a family.  EFT is considered ...